You are not a stereotype Fire Wife. In fact Fire Wives come in all shapes and sizes! What truly makes you beautiful is your Armour Propre which in French means self-respect and self-worth. Living one layer deep is a very lonely feeling. When you feel good about yourself you inspire and transcend others because you are comfortable in your own skin. The firefighter life can give you mixed messages about what is beautiful and what is not. Trust me, no one is confused about what true beauty is (including our firefighters), and it always includes skin deep. I write more about this in my book Fire Wife Chapter Six, Moving From Feeling Like a Five to a Ten. There is a lot of power that comes from inner beauty. There is also a lot of peace. “Beauty begins the moment you decide to become yourself.