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27 09, 2022

Creating a Time-Line of Your Life

By |2022-09-27T23:14:58+00:00September 27th, 2022|My Blog|0 Comments

    In self-reflection and in dreaming about the good life, it is always a smart thing to go through your life, decade by decade to see when you were happiest and why.  Who was in your life?  What was going on in your life?  It's also imperative to go [...]

27 09, 2022

Dread Means New Direction

By |2022-09-27T20:41:08+00:00September 27th, 2022|My Blog|0 Comments

Do you over commit to things in the moment but then when the time comes you wake up dreading the day?  As human beings, as mothers, fathers, friends, daughters, sons, and spouses, we have commitments to our relationships and to getting certain things in our lives done.  We also need [...]

29 04, 2022

The Communication Cure

By |2022-04-29T23:14:18+00:00April 29th, 2022|My Blog|0 Comments

  There is a difference between having great talks with your partner and communicating to your partner.  Most of us can have a laugh and good chats with our firefighter.  But when there is something more serious to convey or your needs aren't getting met, or his aren't, that's when [...]

26 04, 2021

A Little Press Doesn’t Hurt

By |2021-04-26T19:50:11+00:00April 26th, 2021|My Blog|0 Comments

It was the funniest thing! I was home alone when our local paper called me to get a picture for the paper with my book.  So, while my arms are short as all damn hell, I managed to hold the phone in front of me with one hand, then hold [...]

26 04, 2021

New Announcements for May 2021

By |2021-04-26T19:38:32+00:00April 26th, 2021|My Blog|0 Comments

Though COVID has slowed down the plans we've all had, I'm excited that I've been invited to couple of events and I'm looking forward to them! First I've been invited to participate in The Port Moody Author Gala May 11th, via Zoom and on June 16th, 2021 an interview also [...]

26 08, 2020

Tips & Recipes for Starting a Book Club and Fire Wife Community

By |2020-09-23T16:50:37+00:00August 26th, 2020|Book Club and Fire Wife Dinner Parties|0 Comments

Put out the invitation! Pick a time to meet, where and for how long. Will one person host the book club, or will everyone take turns? Do you want to meet in a neutral place or do you want the comfort of someone’s home? Do you want to meet once [...]

4 08, 2020

Meet Krissy

By |2020-08-04T20:18:44+00:00August 4th, 2020|Sisterhood|0 Comments

Krissy is a front-line worker who works both as an ultra-sound technician and with patients who suffer liver failure from alcohol abuse. Her husband is a career firefighter and together they have a 7-year old little boy. Recently I’ve been wondering how the heck couples who are both front-line workers [...]

4 08, 2020

Ross Penhall

By |2020-08-04T19:55:45+00:00August 4th, 2020|News and Events|0 Comments

"It’s not the failure, it’s what you do with the failure, that’s what defines you.” – Ross Penhall Not only is Ross Penhall, a retired West Vancouver Fire Captain, having served 29 years in his city, he is also an internationally renowned landscape artist who has sold one of his [...]

8 04, 2020

Lessons in Isolation

By |2020-08-04T20:37:18+00:00April 8th, 2020|My Blog|0 Comments

There is a lot to be concerned about right now - from world economics to more locally small businesses that are suffering as well as human beings, particularly women and children in domestic abuse situations and families who are not getting enough to eat. Yes, there is a lot to [...]

4 04, 2020

It’ll All Work Out!

By |2020-08-04T20:37:59+00:00April 4th, 2020|My Blog|0 Comments

The other day I talked about some resentment was bubbling up for me with respect to a person who I love very much (I don't think I mentioned love last time!) but who was affecting me greatly during this time of sequester - not my husband and not my children. [...]

11 06, 2019

Dreams of Your Own

By |2020-04-23T17:15:52+00:00June 11th, 2019|My Blog|0 Comments

The trajectory of my life changed drastically when my husband wanted to become a firefighter. I had been going to college to get my media degree when he made this announcement. To say I was unhappy about his choice was an understatement. Since then however, I managed to turn what [...]

21 03, 2019

Finally Getting Back to Normal

By |2020-04-23T17:15:52+00:00March 21st, 2019|My Blog|0 Comments

Good morning! It's a beautiful day here already on the West Coast! I went to my doctor the other day to get more blood tests to see WHY I CAN'T LOSE WEIGHT! My doctor wrote out a requisition for blood tests and then handed me a prescription for diet pills. [...]

2 02, 2019

Make Yourself a Priority

By |2020-04-23T17:15:52+00:00February 2nd, 2019|My Blog|0 Comments

As I put the finishing touches on my Fire Wife book, I am recounting two interviews I did with my friends who are also fire wives. Both of them have said that because a fire marriage is not an easy one, you have to really make yourself a priority. My [...]

3 01, 2019

Happy New Dreams!

By |2020-04-23T17:15:52+00:00January 3rd, 2019|My Blog|0 Comments

It might be January 3rd, but the truth is, I'm still playing Christmas music, I've still got my tree up (until this weekend) and I am still taking it easy. Though the menu plan has improved and I'm going to boot camp tonight, this week is very special to me. [...]

29 11, 2018

Recurring Emotional Stress for Fire Wives

By |2020-04-23T17:15:52+00:00November 29th, 2018|My Blog|0 Comments

Fire Wives at one time or another will experience PTS (post traumatic stress) just because she is married to a firefighter. While what he sees each and everyday would destroy me, the type of PTS I'm speaking of is of an interpersonal level. Whatever he experiences or whatever he puts [...]

18 05, 2018

The Insufferable Firefighter

By |2020-04-23T17:15:54+00:00May 18th, 2018|My Blog|0 Comments

If you could rank your husband's bad moods on a scale from 1-10 where would they land? Recently my husband landed in hospital again. This is the third time with a low white blood cell count. He was the most insufferable person leading up to this hospitalization and I can [...]

13 05, 2018

Where are You in All of This?

By |2020-04-23T17:15:54+00:00May 13th, 2018|My Blog|0 Comments

While having my book for Firefighter Wives edited the other day my editor said, "Wow, a firefighter's life takes precedence over his wife's."  It's true.  From their schedule, to filling in for an extra shift, trading holidays, volunteering, sleeping and sometimes working another job - not only is it true, [...]

11 01, 2018

Two Days…and Two Nights! Woo Hoo!

By |2020-04-23T17:15:54+00:00January 11th, 2018|My Blog|0 Comments

So Mrs. Firefighter wife, do you like those two nights on your own and how do you spend it?   Do you let the house go?  Do you hit the hay early with movies and popcorn in bed?  Having a couple of nights a week to myself is really perfect [...]

3 01, 2018

Happy New Year!

By |2020-04-23T17:15:54+00:00January 3rd, 2018|My Blog|0 Comments

Well, that went fast!  And don't we say that every year.  It would appear that I didn't even blog during the Christmas season.  I love fresh starts and that is exactly what 2018 is to me, a fresh start.  My old trainer, who'd just started up her company again, messaged [...]

24 11, 2017

Moving Toward Your Dreams….

By |2020-04-23T17:15:54+00:00November 24th, 2017|My Blog|0 Comments

When I was in Paris, I knew one phrase, "Je ne parle pas francais' (I don't speak French). I practiced this phrase for about 2 hours over and over again while in Paris before I could say it confidently! I felt terrible not knowing any French while in Paris, because [...]

23 11, 2017

The Golden Rule

By |2020-04-23T17:15:54+00:00November 23rd, 2017|My Blog|0 Comments

Imagine how many relationships would stay together if the Golden Rule was practiced consistently?  Do unto others as you would have done to you.  Treat others as you would like to be treated.  I know a lot of spouses would say, "ya but" he needs to be nice to me [...]

20 11, 2017

Saying Sorry is Balm for the Soul

By |2020-04-23T17:15:54+00:00November 20th, 2017|My Blog|0 Comments

My firefighter texted me last night to say "sorry for what he said...I didn't mean it".  The sorry was amazing because my firefighter's family M.O. was about deflecting and blaming.  We've come a long way my hubby and I.  Though connected by passion, charisma and shared values, when it came [...]

19 11, 2017

Cranky and Grumpy

By |2020-04-23T17:15:54+00:00November 19th, 2017|My Blog|0 Comments

There are times we find those guys we are married too beyond frustrating.  They seem to put more effort into their brothers at the hall than they do with their own families.  Just this past week my husband worked on the boat he we share with another firefighter family, worked [...]

13 11, 2017

My Toughest Critics

By |2020-04-23T17:15:54+00:00November 13th, 2017|My Blog|0 Comments

Well, I handed off one chapter of my book to my husband last night to take to the fire hall.  The chapter I sent is called, Understanding Your Husband's Profession.  So far the reviews have been great though it still needs some editing.  I want to dispel any rumors out [...]

10 11, 2017

What’s Your Marriage Vision?

By |2020-04-23T17:15:54+00:00November 10th, 2017|My Blog|0 Comments

As we all know having a firefighter marriage, it can be difficult to navigate if we don't understand our husband's profession, what they deal with everyday and the results of those difficult days.  It's also essentially important to check in with yourself.  How are you feeling today?  Is there anything [...]

20 10, 2017

The Indomitable Firefighter Wife

By |2017-10-20T21:02:00+00:00October 20th, 2017|My Blog|0 Comments

I have a question for you?  Have you stopped to give yourself a big fat pat on the back today?  I'm serious.  Do you even know who you are?  Today as you go about your day, your routine and your to-do-list, I want you to take a few minutes to [...]

19 10, 2017

So You Married a Firefighter?

By |2017-10-19T22:00:00+00:00October 19th, 2017|My Blog|0 Comments

Hi there!  I am so happy to finally get my blog started before publishing my book, How to Stay Happily Married to a Firefighter. My book is how to stay happily married, because for me, this was not always the case.  Once upon a time I was a very reluctant [...]

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