I know I’ve spoken of this prior, but it’s worth bringing up again for the purposes of going through Chapters Five and Six, Fire Wife Standing Strong in Your Relationship Your Life and Your Dreams.
In life generally, and in this case living fire life with your firefighter, you have to be patient for things to happen but also, you have to practice the Law of Order. The world, the universe, follows “the laws of life” be that in nature, the seasons that we can be sure of will come in order year after year, or the laws of gravity, what goes up, must come down. Well, the law of order means that when making very important decisions about your life means that through impatience, you don’t put the cart before the horse and screw things up. The Law of Order is about putting first things first in their order of importance and development….like your kids!
“We imagine the future, and we are realistic about what needs to happen first. We don’t rush ahead to accomplish things prematurely. If we rush ahead, many things that are important in our lives will be left unattended. Do one thing at a time. A simple example might be that you are going out to a party and you are bringing your kids. Forethought would be that you imagine ahead, what will keep my kids happy and what do I need to do before hand to hopefully have an easy going night out with them. Feed them? Get them to have a nap? Talk to them prior about your plans to arrive and leave?
So what about your dreams? It is true that if you have a family, your firefighter will be away and busy. But this does not mean that you are not going to achieve your goals. When my kids were young, I added to my resume but put them first so those first years they would be secure. As they got older, I became more free and could go full force in all of my dreams. I didn’t sit at home by the way tied to my stove. I put on a women’s conference, I taught classes at night time to parents, I taught a weekend college course, I wrote a newspaper opinion column, all when my kids were little – but it was all done so I could be available for my kids while my hubby worked 2 jobs, volunteered, etc.
Whatever you decide to do in life, make a plan. What needs to be done first so you will not have regrets in the future? No ego decisions, they never work out. Make decisions that put the heart and the soul of your family first. You won’t regret it. Then when all is said and done, you’ll have a nice intact family and all of your dreams too.